In 2020, Psychology Today conducted a survey which showed that 30% of respondents had been in a mixed-gender threesome. Our IRL endeavours are clearly reflective of our secret longings — a 2016 study found that 31% of heterosexual women have fantasised about having a ménage à trois at least once.
Here, we found six women from Reddit who disclose what it’s actually like being in a threesome. We hear from a mix of couplings — FFM, which is two women and one man, and MFM, which is two men and one woman. Scroll on, curious reader. Scroll on.
We got there, he told me to make out with her and eat her out, etc. Eventually, she did the same to me while I pleasured him. You pretty much just take turns doing different things to each other… I wouldn’t do it with someone and my SO, but doing it with two other people that I wasn’t in a relationship with was fun, especially since I knew them and they knew I wasn’t a threat.”
I’ve stroked two cocks at once, I’ve gone down on a woman while being fucked from behind, I’ve been the woman gone down on while the other woman is being fucked, I’ve masturbated while my boyfriend fucks my friend, I’ve stepped outside for a smoke while my boyfriend and girlfriend get it on, I’ve sucked a dick while riding another partner, I’ve had my head hung over a bed next to another woman while a guy takes turns fucking each of our faces. Yeah — just do what feels good.”
I remember kissing both of them and briefly giving the guy a handjob, maybe head. For the most part, he fucked her from behind while she ate me out and accidentally fingered my asshole. She must have been wondering why I was so tight, ha. I pretended to enjoy it. I was 18 or 19.”
So we did it at my apartment. She knew that I was basically straight and I was mostly the recipient of attention during the deed. It was… fine? I had a little freakout after they left and I didn’t feel comfortable sleeping in my own bed that night for whatever reason. We never did it again.”
So now I’ve got two guys kissing me in the middle of a crowded dancefloor. Luckily I was too busy feeling like a boss to notice the judgemental stares that we must’ve been getting. We spent a couple of hours chatting/kissing, then the three of us headed back to mine. I was pretty drunk, but I definitely remember the realisation that I was about to have a freakin’ threesome BY ACCIDENT and that even sober me would be cheering me on.
My room at the house was tiny so we had sex on the living room sofa. It wasn’t the best sex ever, but it was definitely good. Having two guys all over you obviously feels amazing. It was pretty much as you’d imagine a tipsy MMF threesome with two straight guys to be.
On the whole, I enjoyed it and definitely don’t regret it, but probably wouldn’t do it again in the same situation. I’ve seen them out in clubs a few times since, and we were on good terms and find it amusing. They asked to do it again one night, but I said no for one reason or another.”
Everyone else seemed to have fun, too, so I think it was win-win-win. For anyone considering it though, I’d highly suggest setting ground rules about comfort zones, and choosing someone that things won’t instantly become awkward afterwards. Plan ahead, in short.”
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