In our series Salary Stories, women with long-term career experience open up about the most intimate details of their jobs: compensation. It’s an honest look at how real people navigate the complicated world of negotiating, raises, promotions and job loss, with the hope it will give young women more insight into how to advocate for themselves — and maybe take a few risks along the way.

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Age: 32
Location: Boat dweller. London, Bristol, Suffolk
Current industry and job title: Head of Customer Experience
Current salary: £64,000
Number of years employed since school or university: 16

Starting salary: £18,000 in 2006
Biggest salary jump: £38,000 to £64,000 in 2021
Biggest salary drop: £38,000 to £18,000 in 2010

Biggest negotiation regret: In my current role, I didn’t understand my worth. It was only when I tried to leave that I understood my true worth to the business and also what my peers were paid. I lost out for many years through a lack of confidence, and I have only now learned at 32 the way I should have believed in myself at 20.

Best salary advice: Believe in yourself, do your research. Think about the hours you actually work, not what you’re contracted to work. Think about how much it would cost them to replace you at short notice. What would the impact to the business be if you were not there from tomorrow? The recruiter fee may be more than you thought and you can add this to your expected salary.

I left school at 16 and applied for this customer service job at a bank as I thought it would look good on my CV as a young school leaver. I didn’t negotiate the salary, which was £18,000.

I moved to London after travelling for a long time and took a job in the city as a recruitment consultant at £30,000. I did not negotiate the pay but I knew I had to earn a lot more due to London rent. I took a job in recruitment as it’s possible to earn a high salary via commissions very quickly. Recruitment is really down to personality and a “go get ’em attitude.” Other than that you don’t need any previous similar experience, so the opportunity allowed me to increase my salary and my office-based experience quickly.
I decided I needed a career change and got disengaged with recruitment – whilst the salary was great, I never really enjoyed the work and lacked the long-term enthusiasm for a sales role. So I decided to study in the evening to be a florist.

To get experience, I worked in unpaid positions for a number of florists in east London. Whilst this is a free way to learn, I found it very difficult to live in London on little to no money. It took me about two years to feel confident enough to start working on my own projects.

Fortunately, at the time, I was living in a creative community in north London and socialising heavily within the creative scene. This enabled me to get a lot of work through word of mouth, and from there, Instagram was really essential to the promotion of the business. I fell into the events and advertising space through contacts in ad agencies and ultimately, this work was far more lucrative and stress-free than the events side. I negotiated between £150 and £300 a day, per job.

I needed to start working remotely as I had taken on a project to build a boat to live in, and a puppy. I worked doing customer service and training on a salary of £20,000.

When I decided to move onto the boat, I had been struggling with the rental prices in London, and had spoken to my friends about leaving the city for a cheaper, more simple life in the countryside. At this time I was fortunate enough to have a friend who owned a houseboat in London but didn’t live on it. He kindly offered for me to live on the boat rent-free for a year to look after it, but also to see if I preferred my life in London at a slightly slower pace. I loved it and decided that this was how I wanted to live. I took out a loan from Tesco and bought my first boat six years ago now and haven’t looked back. 
 
Returning to customer service was also surprisingly fulfilling. I worked for an online florist so was able to apply my knowledge of flowers and flower care – something I was really passionate about – to the role. I was also grateful for the freedom to be able to enjoy the London canal and river networks with my puppy and my boat, without the added pressure of a commute.

Later this year I took on a role remotely building a customer service team for a startup on £38,000.

I haven’t found any issues finding remote work, although I do travel to the office about once a month. I have been lucky enough that the companies I have worked for have been extremely flexible. There are more and more opportunities for remote working now, and when I move to a new role in the future, I am confident that I’ll be able to achieve another remote position for a similar salary.

I was promoted to head of customer experience and hard-negotiated my salary. I resigned in August 2021 and was counter-offered by the company I work for to encourage me to stay. They were paying me £38,000 when I handed in my resignation, and the counter offer that they gave me was £64,000.

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