11 Women Share Their Tricks For A Guaranteed Orgasm, Every Time
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Our libido and sexual preferences continue to fluctuate throughout our lives. Why do we like the things we like? And why do our turn-ons and turn-offs change? But while our sexual appetites may sway, most of us have a tried-and-tested way to orgasm tucked in our back pocket. Experimentation in sex and recognising that orgasming isn’t always the end goal is important, but sometimes, you’re just itching for a climax.
Here, 11 women open up about the techniques, methods, toys and tricks that they use to guarantee an orgasm, every single time.
“I have to be lying on my back with my head propped up, legs butterflied out. If I’m masturbating it’s with lube (Sliquid is my favourite) and with three fingers in a clockwise motion. If it’s with a sex toy, honestly, a gentle silicone toy (like LBDO) over underwear means there’s less friction or desensitising sensation — works every time.” “When I’m masturbating, I generally watch porn and use my Hitachi magic wand (nothing compares, seriously!) I start slow, going around my labia, and then when I can’t wait any longer, I’ll usually touch the wand to my clit, softly at first and with more pressure as I’m cumming. Gets me every time — 10 mins max!
When I’m with my partner, either he touches me the way I like it (highly recommend OMG Yes as an app to train your partner!) before we have sex, or when we’re having sex, I need to be on top to cum. I start slow and then use the pressure of rubbing myself against his pubic bone while I ride him to ecstasy.”
“When I’m masturbating, there are two toys that I know will do the job. The first is the clit-sucking Womanizer Liberty toy — I think the fastest I’ve ever cum from it was about two minutes! The second is the sold out Abbie Chatfield x VUSH G-Spot vibrator. That one is more internal but going from internal stimulation to outside stimulation is just chef’s kiss and means a guaranteed (and mind-blowing) orgasm.” “Oral sex. Every time. Nothing more to be said, really.” “I gotta be on top!!! I love the penetration but I need pressure on my clitoris and control over the rhythm.” “When I’m with my partner, a guaranteed position that always makes me orgasm is doggy style while I stimulate my clitoris. The combo of the internal penetration mixed with external touch means I can cum really quickly (and hard). Plus, it turns my boyfriend on seeing me get myself off whilst he’s also inside me. Hot.” “Nipple play! Having sensitive nipples works in my favour when it comes to sex. I’m not sure why but it always works for me with my partner.” “A suction vibrator.”“I’m a big fan of any Vush vibrator and they help me reach orgasm every time, without a doubt. Even better is having my partner use them on me so we can both have fun.” “My boyfriend kissing and sucking my ear lobes! While doing other things…”
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