Welcome to Money Diaries, where we’re tackling what might be the last taboo facing modern working women: money. We’re asking a cross-section of women how they spend their hard-earned money during a seven-day period – and we’re tracking every last penny.

This week: “I’m a 26-year-old woman who lives in Devon with my partner. I moved to the area from Oxfordshire to go to university and never left. With a significantly lower cost of living here, I could not justify going back home to live with my parents in the middle of nowhere. Living by the sea is also a big plus. Teaching was always my dream job, however I am becoming less and less sure of that. The retention of new teachers is a real problem as many of my friends in teaching are equally as thrilled with it as I am.

I’m a fairly frivolous spender and have a comfortable lifestyle, mainly thanks to living with my partner, J. I could not have the same lifestyle at all without him. He’s our spender and I am meant to be the saver, which is worrying! I am trying to be more conscious of my spending as I know I am nowhere near being able to afford a house, which is the goal as then we can have dogs.”

Occupation: Secondary school teacher
Industry: Education 
Age: 26
Salary: £29,664 at time of writing. I’m due a pay rise to £33,850 in the next month. 
Paycheque amount: Approximately £1,800.
Number of housemates: One: my partner, J. 
Pronouns: She/her 

Monthly Expenses

Housing costs: £400 for my half of the rent. 
Loan payments: I know I’m over the threshold for student finance but currently talking to HR/finance at work as this is not coming out of my paycheque and I don’t know why. 
Pension: £212.59, taken directly out of my pay. 
Savings? £4,513 in an instant ISA, £1,809 in an everyday saver (most of this is earmarked for holidays in 2023) and a pitiful £52 in a Help to Buy ISA. 
Utilities: £162.50 for my half of water, energy, Wi-Fi and council tax.
All other monthly payments: £48 phone. Subscriptions: £9.99 Spotify, £8.99 Amazon Prime, £4.34 Scope, £13 Dogs Trust.

Did you participate in any form of higher education? If yes, how did you pay for it?

I completed a BSc in chemistry and a PGCE in secondary science education (a yearlong teaching qualification on top of my degree). This was paid for by student finance and maintenance loans. My grandad saved some money for me but this went on rent and bits I needed to move into university with. 

Growing up, what kind of conversations did you have about money? 

Early on, we didn’t talk about money as a family. I sometimes overheard my parents arguing about money as we were not as well off as other people and this annoyed my dad. After Dad’s health took a turn, Mum avoided talking to him about money as it was a trigger for him and so she would talk/vent to me instead. This was mostly about the fact that we did not have any money and, once I was earning money, whether or not I could lend her some, which I always did. 

If you have, when did you move out of your parents’/guardians’ house?

I moved out of my parents’ house for university at 19 and, like many others, returned for the holidays. I feel like I properly moved out at 22 as this is when I consciously decided not to move back in. 

At what age did you become financially responsible for yourself? Does anyone else cover any aspects of your financial life?

I suppose 19 is the proper answer to this as this is when I moved out for university and was relying on my parents less. That said, although I did not pay rent to my parents or cover bills, I know I am always on hand to lend my mum money when she needs it and we have been in this dynamic since I started earning at 17. Now, I would say I’m fully responsible for myself as I can afford to live fairly comfortably but my lifestyle would definitely have to change without J. 

What was your first job and why did you get it?

I was a weekend worker at a shoe shop. I got this as my parents could not afford to give me pocket money, which was common in my friend group, and I needed the money to keep up with them. 

Do you worry about money now?

Not as much as I should, ironically, given my mental health. I feel I have a good salary, especially compared to some of my non-teaching peers, and although I’m a spender, I am careful to stay within my means. 

Do you or have you ever received passive or inherited income?

As mentioned previously, my grandad saved around £2,000 for me to go to university. I don’t know the exact amount as Mum borrowed money from this pot. I spent this on university essentials. I also received a £26,000 bursary from the government for teacher training and have very little to show for it, thanks to my recklessness. I get upset about this about once a month.

Day One

5.45am: First alarm for work. Internally groan and ignore it. 

6am: Second alarm goes off for work and I roll over to have a cuddle with J, which I sleep through. 

6.15am: Third and final alarm goes off and I wake up thinking of synapses, which I’m teaching period one. J makes my tea and goes back to bed. I drink my tea with a bowl of granola and get ready for the day.

7am: Get some work done before I leave, which I’m pleased about. Soon to be erased by a flap over losing my keys. 

7.20am: Get the bus to work, which takes 30 minutes. It would be the same amount of time to walk but thanks to a huge hill, it’s a no from me. The bus fare seems driver dependent, today is £1.80.

7.50am: At my desk, sort printing and admin for the day, go to our meeting and then out to the kids. 

4pm: Done! I’ve never been so glad to finish for the week. Get the bus back to town, £1.80.

5.15pm: Home and feeling bewildered at what I’ve done with the last hour, which involved a lot of wandering around and not finding what I needed. I even convinced myself to not get Costa, which I’d been promising myself all week. At least I’m saving money, I guess?

7.10pm: My best friend E phones. I’m meant to be using this time to body double with her (if you know, you know) but I decide to hibernate under my blanket instead. 

8.30pm: Make a beige dinner while still on the phone with E. I assume J has gone to the pub after football. 

11.20pm: Off the phone with E so it’s time to brush my teeth and have a bedtime TikTok scroll. 

12.05am: J comes back and orders food so I stay up and chat with him before bed. 

Total: £3.60

Day Two

1.30am: I get woken up by J offering extra cuddles, which is strange. I then realise that cuddles maybe isn’t what he was aiming for… 

9.40am: Postman wakes us up and I run down as I’m in PJs. Get back into bed with J for cuddles. 

10.15am: J announces he’s going to get another hour, which I feel like I need but I have a headache so I get up to have a drink and watch Saturday morning telly. 

12.20pm: Get ready after a chill morning. I’m having a low confidence day and I am acutely aware I haven’t eaten yet, which is dangerous territory. Mental health recovery is rarely linear. 

2.20pm: Pop into town with J. I buy a coffee travel mug from TK Maxx using a gift card and J pays for some Tesco bits in lieu of date night this evening.

3.10pm: J makes me some hollandaise as I’m fixated on having this with salmon and poached eggs. He knows I’ll struggle to choose to eat anything else and is an angel. 

4pm: Briefly FaceTime my parents and then have a nap. 

5.40pm: J offers a cuppa and so I get up and have a TikTok scroll.

7pm: We need butter for dinner so since J is cooking and doing the washing up, I head across the road and pick some up, £2.10.

7.20pm: I’ve barely been back 10 minutes when we realise we’re low on milk (not good for tea drinkers). J decides it’s his turn to go across the road and I don’t argue otherwise. 

8.20pm: J has made steak, dauphinoise and pea puree for dinner and I’m very happy. 

11pm: Sleep.

Total: £2.10

Day Three 

12.30am: I decide it’s bedtime for me. J stays up to game and I have an unrelated wobble. 

10.30am: Alarm goes off as we have the Tesco shop coming this morning. 

11.15am: Shop comes and I put it away. I notice my idea to try cheaper cereal bars has backfired as they have wheat in and I have coeliac disease. The shop comes to £71.18, which I pay for (J pays for HelloFresh and date nights, while I pay for Tesco and do most of the saving). 

12pm: Make scrambled eggs and toast for brunch as I have accidentally stockpiled eggs, again. 

1.40pm: Back home after a short walk to the seafront and town. I buy a blue Powerade, a birthday gift and a bubble tea while I’m out, £36.88.

4.40pm: I don’t do much with my afternoon and decide I need to face the washing up. I then start cooking a roast for dinner. 

7pm: Roast pork with Yorkies, roasties and veg is served. 

8.15pm: We watch Fantastic Beasts: The Crimes of Grindelwald and nerd out over Hogwarts Legacy and talk about its release. 

10.45pm: Teeth brushed, ready for TikTok, cuddles and sleep. 

Total: £108.06

Day Four

6.15am: Awake after my usual weekday alarms and cuddles with J. Have a cuppa and get ready. 

6.55am: Check what time my bus is due and realise it is cancelled. There are others at a similar time but I rush about instead to get the one due in five minutes, thank you anxiety. This driver charges £2.30.

7.30am: Make a sachet coffee, which is easy as I don’t have to remember milk. Crack on with some work. 

9.55am: Very productive first period of planning time. Leave the office to get to period two on time. 

5.30pm: What a day and a half that was! I had a couple of tricky classes and we had twilight CPD (which means we stay for an extra hour and a half). Feel wiped out, which is not ideal for a Monday and I have to run for the bus back to town, £1.60.

6pm: Quick snack and then a bath as J isn’t home until 8ish so I don’t need to rush to cook. Use some of my favourite Lush bubble bar (much better value for money than their bath bombs) and read some of my book. 

7.15pm: J messages to say he’s on the way so make a start on dinner. 

9.35pm: After playing some games together after dinner, J decides to shower so I get in bed and scroll TikTok before sleeping. 

Total: £3.90

Day Five

6.15am: Get up after the other alarms, which I only vaguely remember. Check if the bus is running today. It is. 

6.55am: Think about the fact I have my hardest class period one and they weren’t good yesterday. This makes me feel overwhelmed so I cry. I crawl into bed for extra cuddles with J until I calm down. 

7.20am: Get on a different bus than usual as the other stopped being tracked. This is more expensive at £2.50 and I regret it as I see the other drive past. 

10.10am: Period one is done, which is a huge relief. Eat a cereal bar while doing some planning. 

1.45pm: Finish a meal prepped pasta lunch and make coffee for my next planning session. 

4.30pm: Head home after period six teaching via a lift from my friend/coworker. I am always grateful for the lift and hop in the shower as soon as I get home. 

7pm: J is out this evening, which makes it hard to motivate myself to cook. Beige from the freezer is still better than peanut M&Ms, right? 

8pm: Settle down for some TV time.

10.20pm: Off to bed but without J, sleep does not come easily. 

Total: £2.50

Day Six

6.15am: J came home around an hour ago and I slept for about an hour and a half all night. My usually dormant anxiety is in full force today. 

7am: Decide to get an earlier bus as I just want to get going and hope that the anxiety subsides throughout the day, £2.30.

4.30pm: Finish my frantic day with a long and wet wait at the bus stop. Bus finally comes, £1.60.

5.30pm: Eat dinner made by J as he missed his usual cooking day yesterday. We’re eating earlier as we’re going to the cinema this evening. 

6.30pm: Get to the cinema after a wet walk. Even my Docs weren’t a match for the puddles! J pays for the tickets and snacks as it counts as a date night. 

10.20pm: Back home and head pretty much straight to bed. The movie was good, I liked the main plot and the bad guys’ motive made sense. It was just so damn long!

Total: £3.90

Day Seven 

6.15am: Seriously consider skipping my morning cuppa for more sleep but can’t figure out when I’d have to get up so I get up anyway. 

7.20am: On my normal bus. I’ve been unlucky with fares this week, £2.30.

4.20pm: Another busy day at work, another cold wait at the bus stop. Not sure if I want to watch a movie or have a nap when I get in, £1.80.

6pm: Best friend D pops in to get the pass for the space downstairs and we make plans to watch a romcom and have takeaway next week.

7.30pm: Wake up on the sofa after an accidental nap. Good thing I set an alarm. Start cooking dinner. 

10pm: Sleep.

Total: £4.10

The Breakdown

Food and Drink: £73.28
Entertainment: £0
Clothes and Beauty: £0
Home and Health: £0
Travel: £18
Other: £36.88

Total: £128.16 

Conclusion

“I would say this is an average to quiet work week for me. I did not have any major plans with friends and was too tired to stop on the way home from work. I would usually spend more on food and drink as I easily impulse-buy snacks on the way home from work, but this didn’t happen so much during this week. I have been making a conscious effort to spend less recently as I have a few upcoming trips I want to save for so seeing that I can spend less is promising and definitely motivational, even if it was a boring week.”

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