With almost a year of lockdowns under our belt, and ahead of Time To Talk Day on February 4, Kate Lucey reports on what we’ve learnt that actually helps us manage our mental health

We’re talking about mental health a lot more than we ever did. Which is a VERY GOOD THING and something author and journalist Kate Lucey knows all about. Because Lucey has been ‘officially’ depressed (as in, diagnosed) for six years. She’s experienced everything from bad therapy, knock-out meds, and friends-with-too-many-opinions, to good therapy, medication, and solutions that actually work. Working out how to get a grip is a topic Lucey has literally written a book on.

Her debut Get a Grip, Love is a funny, irreverent, and relatable book, which reminds us that it’s fine not to feel ok. (She helpfully and tactfully covers ‘what to say to those mates who fancy themselves as amateur psychologists’ moments). But more importantly, Lucey reminds us that you don’t need to get a grip on everything ALL the time. Here Lucey reports on how we can manage our mental health as we continue to live through a pandemic and a seemingly never-ending lockdown.

Author Kate Lucey’s Get A Grip, Love is out now

The amount of adults experiencing some kind of depression in the UK doubled during the pandemic, with 1 in 5 reported to be going through depression of some sort. Not a shocking statistic really, as Lockdown 3 rolls on with no end in sight it’s fair to say that all of us have gone through low moods and some pretty bleak times.

Low mood is different to depression, though, and it’s difficult to say if the increased diagnoses are situational and because of the pandemic, or because lockdown has forced us to look at our mental health and given us time to make steps towards managing it better – the first step often (and wisely) being to go to a GP and explain how you’re feeling. In general, a low mood will eventually lift, and those experiencing it know that it will pass at some point. Depression is more constant, heavier to shift, and can occur seemingly for no reason – although the pandemic has affected many of us.

So, with almost a year (!) of lockdowns under our belt, what have we learnt that actually helps us manage our mental health?

Talking to someone is easier than you think

Many of us are finding it easier to talk to our friends and family about our mental health these days, as there’s – sadly, yet helpfully – a “we’re all in this together” feeling around the pandemic, and it’s highly likely that those close to you are feeling low, too.

“I’ve found it so much easier to talk about how I’m feeling during the whole Covid-19 crisis,” says Hannah. “We’re all having a horrible time, so it doesn’t feel as ‘weird’ to talk about being anxious, scared or generally really low, as it perhaps would have before when not everyone I talk to would have been able to relate.”

While it’s easy to stay connected via the buffet of tech solutions at our fingertips, a screen conversation doesn’t provide the intimacy of a face-to-face chat over a cuppa. If your local guidelines allow you to go for a socially-distanced walk with a (masked-up) friend, do it.

We NEED to give ourselves a break

“We are currently living in a period of uncertainty, worry and fear. Living in a pandemic we feel we no longer have control over our own lives,” says Counselling Directory member Yvonne Inglis.

“Our survival – physically, mentally, emotionally and financially – feels under attack, prompting our fight or flight response. This can manifest itself in stress, anxiety and depression. Many of us are juggling work, either at home or as a key worker, home schooling or parenting, and a lot of us feel we have to be “on” constantly.

“The boundaries between work and home have become blurred, and therefore people feel they don’t know how to or don’t have time to relax.”

When you’re feeling the pressure to be productive or always working towards making things better for yourself, give yourself the same chat that you’d give your best friend if they told you they were feeling crumpled under the pressure to be “on”. This would likely cover points such as:

* There’s a pandemic out there
A Pan. Dem. Ic. Not seen in over 100 years. The world is not ‘normal’ and you shouldn’t put pressure on yourself to run your regularly scheduled programming at a time when absolutely everything else has changed.

* Focus on today not the future
The amount of stress and anxiety we’re all going through right now is unparalleled to anything we’ve seen before. Try to just focus on the current day and not think about the future – yep, it’s difficult, but trying to think about what you need to do and what would make you feel good in the next few hours is more beneficial than worrying about what will happen over the next few months.

* Mark out your boundaries
If you’re working or homeschooling, find something that separates the ‘work time’ from the ‘home time’ – even if it all happens in the same room. Whether this is packing things away and replacing them with a vase of flowers, having a bath, reading a book, or simply changing the lighting and the furniture a tiny bit, give yourself some kind of separation.

Memes help

OK so this one may seem a bit shallow on the surface but honestly, the amount of Instagram accounts that are articulately and succinctly translating our feelings around the pandemic into oh-so relatable memes, graphs or videos is fantastic.

There are heaps of accounts (InstaChaaz, Gemma Correll and Very British Problems for starters) showing us through ‘gentle comedy’ that we’re not the only ones feeling this way, and sending or tagging a friend into one of these posts is an easy way to say “it’s not just you, it’ll get better, we’re in this together.”

Get a Grip, Love by Kate Lucey (HQ), is out now in Hardback, eBook and Audio

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